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Sports on My Mind?

So, last night, I had the strangest dream. I dreamed that Lebron James, Dwayne Wade & Chris Bosh woke up in a hellhole of a hotel room a la Hangover 2-style. They did the customary “WTF happened, man?” but the best and strangest part was Lebron going stark raving nuts because he couldn’t remember if they won the Championship or not. He kept screaming over and over, “I just need to know! Did we win the Championship?!?!?”

Haha!

And then later this afternoon, I took a nice leisurely-because-it’s-Sunday nap. I dreamed that I was walking down the streets of San Francisco. I think around Market and New Montgomery, maybe First Street. I remember being inside the huge Wells Fargo in there and oohing and aahhing the museum-like interior of the bank. Then I stepped out and onto the street where Brian Wilson (Closer for the SF Giants) nearly runs me over in the unmarked police vehicle that he drives. Then, somehow, we were at some coffee shop. And he doesn’t have his beard (thank GOD!) and he’s so utterly beautiful. Then he tells me he’s secretly married. I’m devastated. I don’t know if I cried in my sleep or not. But then, he goes, “I’m just kidding…” and his hand his rubbing my back. And I’m like, This is nice.

And then my dog goes nuts and starts barking ‘cuz my cousin has decided to stop over and rang the doorbell (my dog’s worst enemy is that infernal doorbell). And thus, Brian Wilson’s ocean blues float away and disappear into nothingness as I wake up.

Damn.

But really, what’s up with all the athletes in my dreams lately?

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Or Why I Can’t Talk About My Dad without Feeling Conflicted.

When I went back to the Philippines in March, it was to accompany my grandmother back home so she could see her oldest son sworn in as he took command of the Philippine Navy.

This also meant days upon days of ceremonies, parades, luncheons, dinners, and general hob-knobbing. It also meant that I would tag along and be introduced by my uncle as “Alex T’s daughter,”…”Yes, that Alex T, Class of ’77.”

It was odd and awkward.

Most of the current Generals of the Military, the Admirals of the Navy, and the Chief of Staff of the Philippines were Class of ’77. They all knew my father. They all told me stories.

Some stories I had heard before from years long past. The same stories that made me look up to my father and idolize him completely. Stories about how he stood up for a fellow “plebe” during “hazing” and ended up being beaten by a steel pipe. A few broken ribs later, that fellow classmate became his friend for life. Some stories were funny, like using spit as a quick shoe-shine during inspections. Others told about his slightly reckless, often brave acts during guerrilla fights in the South. Still, there would be a few officers who would just smile, shake their heads and say, “He was so young when he died, wasn’t he?” I would nod and confirm, “44, sir.” A hand would be placed on my shoulder. “He would have been up here with us, no doubt. He was on the fast-track to Five Stars.”

In moments like those, I would hold my head up, smile, nod and be proud that I was his daughter.

But no one ever tells stories about the darker side of a person. No one ever goes to someone’s kid and tells them what an awful father she had. No. But I know. And it is because of that knowledge that I cannot simply smile and be proud. Instead, I feel ashamed that he was such a good man in some contexts, and such a terrible one in another.

I know we cannot expect our idols to be forever perfect. We cannot expect to grow up and not find out some terrible things that our parents did when they were young. But my mom once told me that it was my father’s sins and the secrets that he kept that ultimately killed him.

Maybe that’s true. Maybe it’s just my mom being hurt. But I do know that I cannot talk about my father without that double edged sword sliding in between my ribs and stabbing me.

I loved my father. He was my hero.

He also ultimately fell from grace, and yet despite that, I still remember being a seven-year-old, watching wide-eyed with pride as my father suited up and pinned all those medals of honor on his uniform.

A fallen hero is still once a hero. That doesn’t change.

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